Hello. Hi! I didn’t mean to completely disappear. Or disappear without saying I was disappearing. I planned on taking a maternity leave, some time off and away from the internet. I also planned on mentioning it. And then one week went by, and then another and another, until we had ourselves an 7 8 week old (I started this post a week ago if that tells you anything about the state of things). I guess it goes without saying—she’s here! Linden June Coleman arrived on April 1st during a pandemic. After a couple days of consistent but false labor, very early on a Wednesday, we barely made it to the hospital in time to meet her. On the walk waddle from the triage room to the delivery room, mid-migraine, my water broke, and I went from 5 to 10 cm dilated. She was in our arms 10 minutes later, the longest, most painful 10 minutes later. Maybe she was in just as big of a rush to get home and quarantine as we were.
The last 8 weeks have been so sweet and so hard. Linnie loves her big sister, Hallie, saving all her coos and half-smiles just for her. I think she’s starting to like her dad and mom, but it’s too soon to tell. She’s a great little sleeper at night, something new to us, and she’s had a time learning to nurse, something new to us. As my friend Lindsay says, “There are no good days just good moments.” That couldn’t be more true. Most days I feel like the seven dwarfs all at once—Grumpy, Sleepy, and Grateful. Wait, there is no Grateful. I guess that makes me Dopey. We’re also playing the role of Doc and charting her growth since doctor’s appointments are limited right now due to the virus.
Linden is the name of a tree, the big tall one growing in my neighbor Patty’s yard, and the name of a quaint neighborhood in Minneapolis. Kev picked it, and I loved it. As we questioned if we’d try to add another to our family or just stay the 3 of us, Kev kept coming back to the visual of a tree. Planting and growing a tree is really hard work in the early years, with little to show for it. But in the later years, all that watering and pruning yields a big ole canopy of leaves. Maybe. Hopefully. Nothing is promised. But we took a gamble on maybe and hopefully and welcomed Linden into this world. We call her Linnie and Lin and Linden, too. I hope we get forever with each other. Under a big tall tree, like the one in Patty’s yard.
Congratulations! I have a daughter Linden as well, who just turned seven. She is tall, and fine, and was the long wanted second child in our family. We call her Lindy 🙂 Linden trees are quite remarkable and have great use and meaning in history.
Oh, I love hearing this and meeting another Linden in the world! Seven! My oldest is turning 7, too, in a couple weeks and I’m mourning the loss of any baby-ness left in her. She’s all big kid.
Congratulations! I’m glad to see you healthy and happy! Thias big Sister is a sweetie as well!
Babies are the optimism we all need- their arrival is the reminder of hope. Congratulations on Linden’s arrival and more happiness to your family!
Congratulations!! Everyone looks beautiful! And what a birth story, holy moly. After my daughter was born, we had “a time” with nursing, too, and ended up discovering that our daughter had posterior tongue-tie (when is harder to spot than the normal kind and therefore slid under the radar). We were lucky enough to have a pediatric dentist who fixed it via laser. It’s very intimidating for a first-time mom to hand your baby to a stranger knowing they are about to fire a laser at her face, but it was fine, only took 3 minutes, and then nursing suddenly…worked. I always mention it if a fellow mom says nursing is going less than ideally, because I wish someone had mentioned it to me so I could have done my research much earlier (the difficulties really hurt my milk supply). Your family is beautiful, and I’m glad you’re holding it together during this bizarre, and sometimes scary, period of history.
Congratulations!!! Beautiful name, baby and family. Enjoy momma
Congratulations, Melissa! What a birth story too, I’m sure she will love hearing it as she gets older. I found the newborn stage to be much harder with our 2nd… mostly because I knew how much I loved all the stages that came after it. You’re doing such a good job! 💕
I love your tree analogy: “Planting and growing a tree is really hard work in the early years, with little to show for it. But in the later years, all that watering and pruning yields a big ole canopy of leaves. Maybe. Hopefully. Nothing is promised. ”
This just about sums up my experience as a parent!
Wishing you lots of happy moments! Linden is beautiful! Look at that sweet little chin!
She’s so beautiful, and four is a great number! Love her name as well. Love her name as well.
Beautiful girl and beautiful name! I am from Sweden and Linden is my last name, but here it’s just Lind.
Lots of love to you and your family
Congratulations. Your family is beautiful, and this piece is beautiful. My second child just celebrated his first birthday on April 2. I was also nervous about adding to our family, and there were some tough, tough times early on, but now, at home all together for so long, I am grateful to have him with us. Strength and courage through this first bit! I’ll be thinking of you. It’s worth it.